anti-marriage dyke tirade

Why the fuck is everyone I know getting married? I really mean it. I know it's “the age I am”, but it's not like my friends from a few years back are wannabe heterosexuals who salivate over a picket fence. Or at least, I didn't think they were. They're fellow dykes and trannies, who want to burn this world down and build a new one as much as I do. Or at least, I thought they did.

Wasn't opposition to marriage a cornerstone of feminism? It's not liberatory just because nobody changes their surname, or you get matching ones (aww couples’ surnames, how cute). Marriage has always been about the transfer of property, about rendering your relationship available to the state for reproductive use. Yes, marriage can be necessary to secure housing, or the right to remain where you are, or the right to accompany your loved ones as they die. Don't you think it's fucked up that a marriage is what gets to determine that for you? Doesn't it make you angry that the law’s view of your relationships gets more of a say in your life than your own choices?

It's not different because you're dykes, or queers, or trans, or polyamorous. You're investing in the same thing, even if you think it's different because you know all this already, and that's “not why you're getting married”. Why exactly are you getting married? What about your relationship do you think marriage is really celebrating?

If you think this is mean, it's supposed to be. Feminist killjoy and all that. Think about it. No really, think about it.